Hi GuidoFox here! Wonderful that you will read this article ;)

I wrote earlier the following article about the relevancy of the sayings towards the partner.

Today I write about Radical Honestly – we have to say immediately what we think – versus – Social Calibration – we have to say things (or not) on the right moment (situational) and keep in mind the behavioral constructive calibration level (high spiritual positive frequency). I prefer the second one.

The first ‘method’ has the presumption of the so called non-suppressiveness (to be more yourself): everything what comes out of your mind you express towards the partner – both the negative as the positive.

As I think that you are also can be yourself in the Social Calibration-frame (we talk about it later), the risky thing about this method is the ‘non-care-attitude’ about the feelings of offensiveness of the other partner what could lead towards destructive self-defensive hardened relationship patterns (where you paradoxically cannot be yourself anymore).

The second ‘method’ of the Social Calibration has the assumption of the constructiveness of whole the relationship (and less on the so called ‘being yourself’-issue). In the Social Calibration-frame you filter your mind heavily consciousness-wise and tell your partner on a friendly manner what he or she could do better and with the same time a touching & compliment and what the new behavior could bring in the future for the relationship. Extreme disagreements could be saved for the ‘weekly-one-hour-constructive-talk’ (in a separate room). Compliments (direct & real) are always welcome.