Hi GuidoFox here! Wonderful that you will read this article!

In DayGame there is a trade-off and a balancing aspect about the duration of the first approach: if you talk for a longer time with the woman – at the position where you met her – (5-15 minutes) – before you go for a number or an instant-date – you build-up some more comfort than in the situation where you hold the conversation lower than 5 minutes average.

The mainstream 'pick-up'-paradigm – to have longer conversations – is more comfort should lead towards a higher chance of following-ups in the form of numbers (safe/non-flaky) & dates and/or instant-dates.

In my experience works the conversations lower then 5 minutes better than the longer conversations.

The main reason why short-term interactions leads to more following-ups is that the woman will be interpreted the long-time conversation as a semi-date where intimacy and touchings didn’t take place. This is very important otherwise your game will be not improving at the way you want. In her subconciousness she will put you already in a more bèta-role and so a less attractive guy, despiting of the comfort-build here.

Secondly: her curiosity (cliffhanger-effect) about you less in case to meet with you again if the first conversation is for a longer time (higher chance to not meet up with you again).

Thirdly: an alpha man is always busy & quick decisive. This attitude is in contradiction with the longer first approach (e.g. go for a fast instant-date).

The fourth argument (combined with the main reason): at that place intimacy can never happen – so, you have to move (quick) further towards a number or an instant-date.

The fifth: your attraction is already decided in the first couple of seconds/minutes and comfort is a later thing to discover from both sides. The attraction would be going down if the talk takes too long time because of the earlier mentioned arguments (alphaness).

Greetz,

GuidoFox – Evolve your Life!

High-End Spiritual Dating Coach

www.GuidoFox.nl

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